New Year… Old You: 3 Simple Steps to Getting Your Motivation Back!

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2019 was a rough year, and I’m kind of glad it’s over. It seemed like every few weeks something else happened to reveal the countless ways I could be “ain’t shit.” This unearthed a lot of deeply rooted issues for me, and for the people around me. Time and time again I was forced to face hard truths, sit with my pain, and surrender. 

New Year, Who Dis?

At the start of 2020, many of us are feeling the renewed energy of a new year. This is a time for committing (or recommitting) to the things we really want to do! …If only we could find the energy to start doing them. 

As a therapist and coach, I help people pursue their goals in a way that feels authentic to them. Sometimes we’re all set up to chase a dream, but there’s something missing. We ain’t got no mojo!

To be honest, I’m feeling some of that low energy right now. There are so many new ideas buzzing around in my head and I don’t even feel like swatting at them. Instead of fighting the feeling, I’m choosing to lean into it and make use of the down time. Here are some simple steps to help re-up your motivation:

Step 1: Let that Sh** Be

Like most things in life, our energy is on an ebb and flow cycle. Probably, the quickest way to lose all motivation is to try and force the energy flow. Whatever plans you can’t seem to get off the ground, let them be. It’s okay to put in just enough effort to manage your personal and professional life, without forcing yourself to do more. Do what’s needed to keep yourself, your family, and your job satisfied, then let that be enough. Repeat after me: “What I am doing is enough!” Say it over and over again until it sticks.

Step 2: Take Care 

Self-care is more than just getting a mani-pedi. It’s about intentionally making time to address your personal needs, including your emotional needs! Low motivation is likely a sign that some part of you is just plum tired. Take a second to consider your body, your mind, your heart, your spirit. What does each part need? Do one thing for yourself right now. Don’t worry, I’ll be here when you get back.

Step 3: Stay Open

When our mojo gets low it’s easy to shut everything down in the name of “self-care.” We don’t feel like grabbing that friendly lunch or attending that conference. We want comfy pants, a glass of wine, and a good K-drama (okay, that last one is just me). Believe it or not, this is a great time to be open to opportunities that arise. Don’t ever feel pressured to act or make rash decisions. Simply give yourself permission to make connections, and gather information. You never know how saying “yes” today could be useful in the future. 

As you apply these steps, slowly but surely, the motivation will start to flow. Until then, here’s to comfy pants, a warm cuppa tea, and whatever the heck makes you feel good. May your inner light guide you well ❤

January 4, 2020 by Kimoré Reid, Ed.S, LPC, CPCS

Kimoré is a licensed counselor, supervisor, coach, & writer. She is committed to healing & empowering Women of Color, Afro-Caribbean Communities, & Queer People of Color. Interested in working with Kimoré? CLICK HERE!